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SIMPLIFYING AND UNDERSTANDING LOVE LANGUAGES

To begin with, what is love language? In simple words, it is the action of expressing “how you love” and “how you want to be loved”.  Relationships most times is a ‘juicy’ topic to always come across, which reveals how important love and friendship is to us. It is then very crucial that we understand ours and our partner’s love language. In cases where you are not exactly sure what your love language is, you need to be more aware and attentive to your partner’s needs because they tend to be your mirror to understanding and revealing what your love language could be. Being single or married has little to do with whether you need to feel loved or not! Everyone has a human desire for wholesome and unconditional love in all relationships.  There are officially five(5) ways to express and receive love; through Acts of service, Physical touch, Words of affirmation, Receiving gifts and spending quality-time together. Each of these is important and expresses love in its own way. Learn
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BATTLING WITH LOW SELF ESTEEM?

Self esteem is used to describe an overall sense of self worth or personal value, it could also be a personality trait which means it tends to be stable and enduring. There are two types of esteem;high and low. Some persons place their esteem in a very high place, while others battle with low self esteem.  People battling with low self esteem find themselves in that space due to some threatening life events such as anxiety, trauma or abuse, divorce,failed relationships, mood disorders such as depression, moving on, changing locations, poor performances in school, unrealistic goals, influence of friends, unsupportive parents are also a major factor, some of these failed events tend to get the better version of people battling with low esteem.  Low self esteem is a personality trait that can ruin you in a very bad way if you don’t find the strength to get pass it. If you are a frequent reader to this page, you will realize I very much like indulging myself in my write ups so as
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OVERCOMING THE POWER OF FEAR

Have you ever been afraid of something? Do you know the feeling when fear makes your whole body shiver? If you are reading this right now, you know for sure we all have FEARS. It is undeniable that humans are motivated by different things, yet fear is one of most "powerful" motivators creeping our existence.  Some people are born with fears, while others develop it from experiences, Inadequacy, uncertainty, losing loved ones, failure, rejection, change, failed marriage, relationship or friendship, also fear of not being good enough, smart or courageous that targets our self-confidence, amongst others are also fears we were born with or developed along the "way".  Our very deepest fears are exactly what keeps us away from revealing who we truly are. Personally, I allow anxiety and fear get the better of me. I am scared of the unknown, which is why I get so worked up.Fear happens to be a vastly personal experience, is basically that which I do not want to fac
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The average Nigerian woman's new year resolution

Let's be frank for a second. We're all excited for the champagne and sparkles that is New Year's eve, but the day after, we're going to be left with a booze-induced headache, glitter in our hair, and thoughts on what the new year will bring.   2018 is the year that female social entrepreneurs should think and act with an abundance mindset, especially with impact to resolve to improve your self. Did we complete our resolutions from last year? Do you even remember what they were? I can say that I completely forgot mine lol. Some of the average new year resolutions for our typical Nigerian women are:-  The struggle to join the gym and keep fit, for others is to save money, while we have those determined to give their life to Christ, however we also have the ones that keep saying " I am going to stop being a runs girl this year" ...and few others with the aim of starting a family and finding their spouse.  You here some of my family and friends saying things li
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Life After The Ceremonial Events!

After The Glitz and Glamour- Now What? -by Ruth Bala Victor    Honeymoon is over, the thank you visitations are over, wedding photos now hung on your walls, and wedding presents now unveiled. You have been married for a few months now and it feels just like yesterday when you asked and she said yes; now its time to face reality- she is a nag like other women, she can be lazy at some point, she might also be sensitive and wants to know everything! On the other hand, she is having to face the reality that all men including her 'night in shining amour' snore, you forgot to bring breakfast in bed for her, you forgot to flush after using the toilet. Suddenly, family bombarding you with questions on getting pregnant-then comes pregnancy scares. What about a baby on the way?- Financial investment sets In-and emotional stress- whose family do we spend Christmas with?    The few years in your marriage are the best time to learn how to settle problems and handle disappointments in you
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PERSONAL EXCELLENCE

First Step to Get What You Want - Admit You Want It . Today's article covers the very first step of getting what you want —  admitting you want it . While this may seem obvious, many people do not get what they want because they do not acknowledge their desires. These people are also the  deniers . For example, in the area of career, there are so many people who have dreams they want to pursue — be it setting up their restaurant, being a baker, being a manga artist, or creating music. However, deniers stifle themselves by staying in a career they dislike. They give reasons like the job is "not bad," that it fulfills their needs, and that they're quite content with life, when deep down they wish for something more. In the area of relationships, there are singles who wish to be in a relationship, but deny it. Some are too proud to acknowledge that they do want to be with someone. Some are afraid that it will make them look desperate ( it doesn't ). For those who
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Daisy's Tale

Hello Darling! she answered the call, Yes babe, see you in 20 minutes Mr Alex. I love you too baby, she ended. Daisy was a lady in her late 20's, who was about to tie the knot with the man of her dreams, Alexander! She was a woman who had an adventurous life that brought some regrets to this day, she found Alex in the middle of her youthful exuberance and he(Alex) was struck by Daisy's beauty, intelligence, features and her jovial nature to the world. The day Alex met daisy he told her how he intends to make her his bride, she laughed it off, but to this day he kept his word. She made sure she told Alex everything about her past life but kept the very biggest secret that keeps tearing her apart. Today she is getting married to Alex. During the course of their relationship daisy grew fond of Alex and fell helplessly in love with him, she prayed to God everyday about him and thank God for his life, during those times daisy was torn between telling Alex this one secret of h
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